I am frequently asked to recommend books to people
who are struggling in various areas of their lives. This is it!
~Linda McGlynn, Pastor to Children & Families
Lake Hills Community Church, Laguna Hills, CA
“The Hughes insight into the fundamental obstacles to godly change is powerful, unique, and above all, biblical. This book is a priceless gift to all of us who have yearned for a closer and richer life with God and others.”
~Richard Denault
Television Director
"I have known Bob and Judy for over twenty-five years. I have often encouraged them, sometimes pleaded with them, to put their insights down in writing so that more people can have the benefit of their life-changing power. I know you will be forever grateful that you picked up this book."
~Thomas Meaglia
Author, Knowing the Economy of God
After applying the principles in this book, Brian
Hunsaker received the following note from his secretary:
"I want you to know that I see God working in your life and making profound changes. Your whole countenance and being seems to have really relaxed and it is so apparent to me how much the Holy Spirit is in your heart and God's peace is in you. Just to let you know I'm not the only one that has noticed...a few have commented that you are saying 'Thank you’ more and have a different way about you"
Brian says, "I'm very grateful for the changes in my life and that
God is using those changes to help me trust Him more and love others better."
Brian Hunsaker
Real Estate Developer
I think Love Focused will become known as one of the best Christian books of the decade. It has been years since I have read such a fresh, honest address to some of life’s greatest and most common problems.
I read it at home, took it with me to read on appointments, etc. but every time I started to read it I couldn’t put it down. The title gives you an indication of what it is about, but I would add that it is more than a book ‘’about something’’ it is a book that will cause you to ‘’do’’ something. It should be required reading in schools, colleges, the workplace and yes, especially churches!
You can probably tell that I thoroughly enjoyed Love Focused. The truth is I have read many books, Christian and secular, and very few have earned the privilege to be read again, let alone, dog-eared, tabbed, underlined and kept in a handy place at all times.
~Angie Rose
“Of all the books on Christian growth I’ve read, Love Focused was by far the best. I didn’t want it to end. It was insightful, yet simple to understand and gave a simple solution that helped me understand how to change. Thank you for helping me to see the Christian life in a completely different way.”
~Pam Wenger
Wife and Mother
“Other books I have read never helped me practically apply God’s Word in a way that would make a significant difference in my life. Now I have a way. Thank you!”
~Elizabeth Bodie
Wife and Mother
“This book has truly been a transformation for me. It has exposed core issues in my life that were holding me back from living life fully and loving God and others completely. Thanks especially for the real life examples in the book that made it real for me and showed me step by step how to apply what I was learning.”
~Mary Brummett
Mother of Four Sons
Transforming my way of thinking, and assisting me to make the correct choices, have been the miracle twin accomplishments of Dr. Hughes' writing. Having read countless self-help books and many spiritual advice manuals, I had not affected real change. I chalk that up to most authors' failure to bring their concepts together into a tight, concise concept that I can carry with me in my daily walk.
Dr. Hughes, on the other hand, takes all of his original ideas, along with complex universal human behavioral truths, and compacts them into two simple, yet fresh, concepts: Outcome-Focused Goals vs. Love-Focused Goals. Those work in conjunction with one key question, the doozie of them all: "Is God Enough?"
Until you've read Dr. Hughes' material, you cannot understand the impact of asking yourself that question on a moment-by-moment basis. Daily, as I stand at a crossroads--one path inflicting pain, the other spreading joy--Dr. Hughes' question, along with all its wonderful implications comes foremost to my mind. It is then I find myself easily making the choices that serve to fulfill the Great Commandment!
S.L.
I've been a Christian for over 20 years and I've read many books on Christian growth by best-selling authors. The Love-Focused synopsis was absolutely the best thing I've ever read from any Christian author. I didn't want it to end.
To be honest, so much of what I've read from other Christian authors is so hard to "wade through," much of it is lost on me. I usually end up only getting something out of small sections here and there.
In contrast, every sentence of the Love-Focused synopsis was insightful, yet simple to understand. I didn't feel hit over the head with theology or guilt, or confused by deep psychological thinking. Instead, I felt compelled and anxious to read further. The practical examples were so helpful in understanding how different issues might be present in my own life. The best part, though, was that Love-Focused actually gave a practical, simple solution and helped me understand how to change. So many books never get to that part and just leave you feeling convicted but frustrated about what to do.
The morning after I read the synopsis, I was able to use some of what I learned to help my teenage daughter with an issue she has been struggling with for many years. Using the understanding in Love-Focused, I was able to help her look at things in a different way, and she seemed almost relieved. I hope this book comes out very soon. We all desparately need to hear this!
P.W.
Six months ago the only person I thought about was me. I needed to control everyone and everything to produce the outcome I needed. I lived my life believing that my being in control would assure me that I was acceptable. I made every single decision throughout my life with the underlying belief that I was not worthy of genuine love and acceptance.
Dr. Hughes has helped beyond measure. My time with him has helped me to see how much God has always loved me.
And when my family let me down, even caused great trauma and strife, God carried me through every difficult situation, every harsh word, every abusive action. Now that I know that God's love in my life is enough, I can live every day for the rest of my years with the total awareness that if I had been the only person to suffer at the hands of another, I know that my Savior would still have willingly given up His very life for just me.
If I had ignored the tug on my heartrstrings to seek out the cause of my need to control everything in my life, I would never have had the joy of being supported, encouraged, and built up by Dr. Hughes. I would never have begun to discover the full extent of God's vast love for me. And I would never have discovered the purpose for which God created me.
T.H.
To say that the principles in this book are life changing is really an understatement. I’ve been transformed!
When you make your goal to love God and love other people, it is amazing what else falls into place. No longer are you wasting time impressing people and living falsely. No longer are you running from pain and being isolated. A huge weight has come off your shoulders and now you are running, full-force, into life and love with passion and zeal.
God’s love is enough! When you catch this truth, you will be free to love others, regardless of the circumstances or the outcome. It will change you without a doubt.
J.H.
Thank you so much for everything you have done for Michael in such a short time. He is already starting to heal and told me a story tonight about a situation where in the past he would of become very angry but how he just walked away from it.
The list you gave him was wonderful on self-protection. I went down the list and could check off 75% of it.
Michael told me I should really talk to you which was a compliment to me that he felt you are worth sharing.
Is there a book you could recommend for me that deals with self-protection and how to change or stop the fear that causes the behavior? Your help is appreciated.
G.K.
Dr. Bob is like a heat seeking, truth scud missle. His ability to listen, understand, and empathize has drawn me closer to God and health. The time we have spent seeking truth has opened my understanding of myself, healed damaged areas of my life, and equipped me to serve God and others with my whole heart, soul, mind and strength. Thank you, and I know others will be guided to health and truth. You are my hero.
L.M.
Around age 41 I was struggling with suicidal feelings and a marriage on the rocks. Years earlier I had become depressed and sought professional help, only to find that my condition worsened under treatment and that professional opinions concerning our marriage ranged from little support to active antagonism. With more than ten years of psychoanalysis, a round of medication, and a decision to dedicate my life to Christ, I had recovered greatly but was still feeling hopeless, suicidal at times, and desparately in need of marital advice.
The first time I talked to Dr. Hughes, he said he was going to try to help me love my wife better. Wow! What a breath of fresh air! At the second session he asked about my goals and very quickly convinced me that they were all beyond my control. Soon he explained depression, as a built-in sensor for having put my hope in an outcome-focused goal. Then he used the Bible to show me new goals that really were attainable, that could never be thwarted or abused and were therefore depression-proof. I tested these goals, and within a few months the depression was lifting.
Those choices to love over the years cost a great deal of pain and loss, but that was what the Bible commanded. Amazingly, these concepts have brought me so much satisfaction and joy you couldn't pay me not to go through the experience again.
J.B.
Dr. Hughes has been helping me to develop a deeper strength of love, to assist me in moving deeper and closer to God and offering myself and my experience to others. Through my work with Dr. Hughes, I am discovering increasing power and courage to love others, even in the most difficult of circumstances.
With his guidance I am learning to set all things aside and to hold to one goal, one ambition, the goal to love others. Loving others has rarely been easy for me.I am learning the simple truth that all the goodness and love that I have received from God and others is never for me alone, but is to be shared with others. A love focused life is always possible, never lacking, and literally changes the world around you.
It has also been my joy to work with Bob in teaching these principles to other men. I have never known a situation where the emphasis and techniques utilized by Dr. Hughes failed to yield anything but profound and dramatic results. I enthusiastically recommend Dr. Hughes and his treatment philosophy.
D.Z.
Bob helped my wife and I to focus on God and love, not our outcome-focused goals. We are truly blessed to have Dr. Bob’s advice. He helped save our marriage.
M.S.
My life has been dramatically improved by changing my goal to loving God with all my heart Thank you Dr. Hughes
J.B.
God has used Dr. Hughes to move love for others from my head to my heart whereas I could actually feel compassion for people I thought were unlovable.
