Over the years I have talked with a large number of people who feel extremely responsible for everyone and everything in their lives. They falsely believe that it is their responsibility to make their own lives and the lives of their families run smoothly and happily.

Very few people understand what causes their unrighteous anger. Rather than having the understanding they need to prevent it, they simply try to manage it. In fact, most programs to help people with anger problems are built on this “anger management” approach.

We often hear people make comments such as, “That makes me mad” or “She made me mad.” Such statements reflect a common misconception about anger, namely, that people or events cause us to get angry. In reality, people or events do not make us get mad.